Anyone in one or have been in one?
Wife and I have been married for 12 years now and the topic has come up a few times. She has gone both ways and even had a gf for a short period before we met. All-in-all we are pretty open with our sex life. Which, has also led to infidelity in both our cases. We were talking this weekend, on our anniversary dinner ironically (haha) about how getting old sucks and wanted to get everything out of life while we can. We both agreed that the real issue we have with the infidelity is moreso the lying and betrayal than the actual act. We started to come up with guidelines of things we both agreed were and were not acceptable if we were to go this route. Now, on the other hand, we are happy with our lives and each other, and compared to our couples friends we have way more sex than average, and none of those couples have been married even half as long as us. I feel like yes, there is a risk, but also would be great to get out there into some fresh. :lol:
We started thinking about swinging basically, but there's a whole culture to that, and I'm not sure we are down with yet. Then its like, whats the chance we can find a couple that we both find attractive? Seems unlikely, and then how the hell do you go about starting that conversation with them. lol It progressed to us just doing our own things, but following a set of rules we agree on. Also, do we want to know about it when the other person has an experience? Tough to say since if we don't share then it might feel like we are hiding something, but do we really want to know? It was a interesting convo to say the least, and we left it on the table as an option in the future.
What does TCG think? Has anyone ventured down this path before?
Wife and I have been married for 12 years now and the topic has come up a few times. She has gone both ways and even had a gf for a short period before we met. All-in-all we are pretty open with our sex life. Which, has also led to infidelity in both our cases. We were talking this weekend, on our anniversary dinner ironically (haha) about how getting old sucks and wanted to get everything out of life while we can. We both agreed that the real issue we have with the infidelity is moreso the lying and betrayal than the actual act. We started to come up with guidelines of things we both agreed were and were not acceptable if we were to go this route. Now, on the other hand, we are happy with our lives and each other, and compared to our couples friends we have way more sex than average, and none of those couples have been married even half as long as us. I feel like yes, there is a risk, but also would be great to get out there into some fresh. :lol:
We started thinking about swinging basically, but there's a whole culture to that, and I'm not sure we are down with yet. Then its like, whats the chance we can find a couple that we both find attractive? Seems unlikely, and then how the hell do you go about starting that conversation with them. lol It progressed to us just doing our own things, but following a set of rules we agree on. Also, do we want to know about it when the other person has an experience? Tough to say since if we don't share then it might feel like we are hiding something, but do we really want to know? It was a interesting convo to say the least, and we left it on the table as an option in the future.
What does TCG think? Has anyone ventured down this path before?