Just take things easy and slow. I'm sure you'll be fine. I know you already have been talking to your birth mother, but I'm sure when you meet in person you may have even more questions you might want to ask. You'll have your wife for support if you need it and don't hesitate to go to your wife if you do.
You got this Chris.
Yea, Lisa has been a huge help in this whole thing. From the day we started dating. I couldn't go through this meeting without her.
Serious question? What do you want out of it? Answer that question first and it might help guide you in what you should do with her.
From the start, my whole mindset has been "I want to find them to learn about my history." She's answered some questions already about that. But... you ready for this plottwist? She's adopted too! So there's no telling what kind of medical background we have as she has never tracked her biological parents down.
At the minimum, maybe ask about family health history. I know that can be very helpful in determining future issues for yourself and children.
Maybe ask what happened around your birth for them to make their decision, to help you with any closure?
Just approach it with an open heart and patience and I'm sure you'll come out fine and with some new answers/questions.
And maybe some new family members too! We talk almost every day (not necessarily full convos but exchange a few texts and its been great so far)
Are you meeting your father also on this trip, or just your mother?
No, just mother. Father lives in Atlanta and him and his wife are coming to Alaska this spring/summer
I think theres been a few good suggestions, maybe write things down ahead of time so you don't forget them, but other than that I would say just take things as they come. Try to understand things from their point of view when possible.
I actually was stumped at questions so like a lame-ass, I did some Googling to see what others asked their biological parents for the first time and am using some of those questions. Most are more of a "getting to know you" type question as opposed to a "why did you give me up" type question.
Sorry I'm just now seeing this. Banned from the group and banning him from the site.
Thank you. I saw that shit last night and was gonna get a hold of you but I'm glad John or whoever was able to as well.
also I would suggest not drinking during the trip as that can cause you to do or say something you might regret (good or bad)
I agree but I also think having some drinks in me (and her) will ease the situation a little. Time will tell.
Find out if you might actually be Italian!
Small portion. Ancestry.com DNA test says only 6%. Hahaha.
Thanks for the advice everyone. Will take all of it into consideration when I meet her for the 1st time Thursday morning!