How are you REALLY doing?
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^This. While sure COVID may be dangerous and all for some and can spread etc etc..... I feel a year into this the mental effects are far more dangerous. Not only for those struggling but for their family’s, friends etc.
I've been out of work for a month now. I've gone on one interview out of about 15 open positions that I've applied for. My wife is working some overtime, I've got unemployment coming in, and enough savings that we'll be fine for a few months if necessary. It's still depressing and takes a toll on my self confidence, though. Like others said, I need to spend less time on social media, and more time on being active and doing things with my daughter and wife. So right now it's a combination of helping my 9 year old with her remote learning, searching job postings for decent positions, and trying to find things to do that don't involve staring at my phone or laptop (like this LOL). I'm still an optimist at heart, and feel that it's just a matter of circumstance and faith for things to work out.
I'm really looking forward to putting 2020 behind me like a lot of people are. This year has been a real mixed bag of highs and lows. Even things that should be highs can feel like lows at times. I'm definitely having to find myself again. I'm hoping we get back some normalcy. Echoing what people are saying, I don't know how I would have made it through this year with out seeing my therapist.
I was with Carmax up until 2019, and got recruited to be a buyer for Castle Auto. I got furloughed during Covid, and then got recruited and hired by Napleton this past August to be a corporate buyer. In early November my boss left. Then, several Napleton dealerships in IN, WI, MO, and IL were overloaded on inventory and put on a buying freeze. I was told that they didn't need as many buyers anymore due to the changing market conditions. As a recent hire, I was one of the ones to go.
Been trying to get my old gig at Castle back and looking at some other opportunities, but it's a slow time right now.
I forgot to mention this, as it affects me as well. Make sure you get your rest. Lack of sleep really messes with your head. I personally am having this issue since I got thrown onto overnights and find it hard to sleep during the day in a basement with an 11 month old. Even ear plugs cannot help sometimes. Today was maybe a 3.5-4 hours of sleep and Im now at work for hopefully only 8 hours. Which also plays a roll since sometimes I dont know if Im working 8 hours or 12.
When I did overnights before, I also had a hard time sleeping. I didnt notice at first, but looking back I really had some self destructive behavior problems and my mindset didnt think anything was wrong.
Today is my last day at work in IL, so I'm feeling pretty good about it. We're heading to the Sunshine State this coming Thursday. I need to find my ass a new job.
when we moved wife and I had no jobs lined up.
We knew we were going to move as we had a five year plan, so we saved saved saved knowing on jobs and then time to get situated in a new state. And yes it was a little scary, longest I ever went with out a job has been like 48hrs, until now.
Ha, nope! I've got enough saved up where it's no big deal. Plus my wife will be able to work remote until September, so we'll have her income. Also, with the inflated market, we're selling the house for 21% more than we paid for it. We were going to either roll that into the new house or use a chunk of it to put in a pool (if the house we buy doesn't already have one).
wife's income is sweet. does she have insurance then for your family? insurance costs would sway me also.
we'd have enough saved up too, just not landing in a job i'd love would make me nervous.
and yeah inflated market is sweet for selling, but also buying during the same time isn't as sweet
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wife's income is sweet. does she have insurance then for your family? insurance costs would sway me also.
we'd have enough saved up too, just not landing in a job i'd love would make me nervous.
and yeah inflated market is sweet for selling, but also buying during the same time isn't as sweet
We have to figure out the incremental cost, and I would just pay it. Her work should cover me as long as I'm unemployed. Or I can use COBRA, but I think that shit is expensive.
We're renting for the next 14 months, so we won't be buying anytime soon. Maybe the market will settle when we buy. Only $745 of our monthly payment is going to principle. So if the value of the home we buy goes down by more than $10k in the next 14 months, it'd be a wash.
Stressed and tired. Took a big risk starting a new job and hoping it will pay off in the long run.
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