I'm coming to my wits end and need some new ideas. My 12 year old daughter has a problem with lying and I'm running out of ideas on dealing with her. Her lying problem is getting out of hand and this past Friday, she stole a water bottle from another kid at school, lied when confronted, and got busted by the principal because there are cameras everywhere at the school.
A little background.
1. She's my step daughter and I've only been in her life for the last 4 years or so. She's a full time project between her school work and behavior.
2. Her dad is worthless (in life and parenting) and her grandmother has no idea how to raise kids. They go visit "grandma" every other weekend and he lives with his parents who also pay his child support. He knew about what she did and didn't say a word and played video games in his room all weekend. Grandma did nothing about this either.
3. I've tried everything from grounding her, taking things away, having her write me essays on why lying is bad, etc. and none of it has worked.
4. I've threatened her with having her move in with her "grandma" as she hates going there. We know this isn't a good idea but I figured maybe it would work.....
5. I told her she won't be getting any Christmas gifts from me if she continues with this crap and then this happened.
I'm sure that I'm leaving out a lot of things I've tried. I listed out the things I've done to punish her but also want to mention I've tried the exact opposite in the past. We did a reward based system and she's get anything from candy, to toys, to nicer things if she could "do the right things" and it didn't work.
HELP!!
A little background.
1. She's my step daughter and I've only been in her life for the last 4 years or so. She's a full time project between her school work and behavior.
2. Her dad is worthless (in life and parenting) and her grandmother has no idea how to raise kids. They go visit "grandma" every other weekend and he lives with his parents who also pay his child support. He knew about what she did and didn't say a word and played video games in his room all weekend. Grandma did nothing about this either.
3. I've tried everything from grounding her, taking things away, having her write me essays on why lying is bad, etc. and none of it has worked.
4. I've threatened her with having her move in with her "grandma" as she hates going there. We know this isn't a good idea but I figured maybe it would work.....
5. I told her she won't be getting any Christmas gifts from me if she continues with this crap and then this happened.
I'm sure that I'm leaving out a lot of things I've tried. I listed out the things I've done to punish her but also want to mention I've tried the exact opposite in the past. We did a reward based system and she's get anything from candy, to toys, to nicer things if she could "do the right things" and it didn't work.
HELP!!