Going to try to keep this breif so bear with me.
At the start of the summer my girlfriend of 3 and a half years went to Florida. I did not go on this trip becuase I was working and paying off debt from my first year of school (another long story). She went with her best friend and boyfriend and fille dmy spot with another guy. I was not worried about this since not only did I trust her but he was also a gambling addict, emotionally unstable, and overweight. no job, broke, and at school with no major plans after. I'm not one to gloat but I have a good head on my shoulders, I work hard and have my priorities in line and have solid plans for my future. We were high school sweethearts and she was always happy, I thought I had nothing to worry about. I thought I was a good catch...
You can probably start filling in the blanks already but when she came back, about 3 weeks after, she wanted a break from me. I then find out that they have been having an emotional affair this entire time since I was busy with work and school but apparently not making enough time for her (I ditched my frineds every weekend to see her). I dump her, then bring her back. She then tells me she still wants to see him as a friend, I shoot this down becuase it is disrespectful to me. Why would she want to? She declines so I dump her for a second time.
She then starts making contact 2 weeks after that, leading me on that she wants to get back together. I say fine but only if she stops seeing this guy. Not only do I then discovered she got physical (making out counts in my book) but he got her tickets to Rascal Flatts (her favorite band) shortly after FL knowing full well of the problems I was having with her( I bought her tickets for her bday the first year we dated, she brought a girlfriend instead of me). At this point I flip out, lose it, toss her out and throw a tire iron into the GTI's passenger window.
That was about a month ago. My question is how can I begin to get over this? I was nothing but good to here, respectful kind, would drop anything to be there for her, adn I still get shafted like this. I gave her NO reason to cheat on me, and gave her plenty of chances to get me back, but she takes some douchebag? I am not a man whore, never have, so the "Get bitches" option my friends have given does not work.
I'm not usually one to put this stuff out there but I know there are many people that have had the same experiences and I would like to hear their takes on the matter. A few members on here have already helped a little, notably Larry, Adam, and Mikey. I've been trying on my own but it hurts just as much today as it ever has.
Thanks in advance
-Joe
At the start of the summer my girlfriend of 3 and a half years went to Florida. I did not go on this trip becuase I was working and paying off debt from my first year of school (another long story). She went with her best friend and boyfriend and fille dmy spot with another guy. I was not worried about this since not only did I trust her but he was also a gambling addict, emotionally unstable, and overweight. no job, broke, and at school with no major plans after. I'm not one to gloat but I have a good head on my shoulders, I work hard and have my priorities in line and have solid plans for my future. We were high school sweethearts and she was always happy, I thought I had nothing to worry about. I thought I was a good catch...
You can probably start filling in the blanks already but when she came back, about 3 weeks after, she wanted a break from me. I then find out that they have been having an emotional affair this entire time since I was busy with work and school but apparently not making enough time for her (I ditched my frineds every weekend to see her). I dump her, then bring her back. She then tells me she still wants to see him as a friend, I shoot this down becuase it is disrespectful to me. Why would she want to? She declines so I dump her for a second time.
She then starts making contact 2 weeks after that, leading me on that she wants to get back together. I say fine but only if she stops seeing this guy. Not only do I then discovered she got physical (making out counts in my book) but he got her tickets to Rascal Flatts (her favorite band) shortly after FL knowing full well of the problems I was having with her( I bought her tickets for her bday the first year we dated, she brought a girlfriend instead of me). At this point I flip out, lose it, toss her out and throw a tire iron into the GTI's passenger window.
That was about a month ago. My question is how can I begin to get over this? I was nothing but good to here, respectful kind, would drop anything to be there for her, adn I still get shafted like this. I gave her NO reason to cheat on me, and gave her plenty of chances to get me back, but she takes some douchebag? I am not a man whore, never have, so the "Get bitches" option my friends have given does not work.
I'm not usually one to put this stuff out there but I know there are many people that have had the same experiences and I would like to hear their takes on the matter. A few members on here have already helped a little, notably Larry, Adam, and Mikey. I've been trying on my own but it hurts just as much today as it ever has.
Thanks in advance
-Joe